The Message Toolkit

How to use this toolkit

These messages are starting points, not scripts. Always adapt them to your own voice, to her profile or conversation and to the situation. A message that sounds like you will always beat a copy-pasted one.

Three rules before you send anything:

1. Be specific. Refer to something real about her or the conversation.
2. Keep it short. Two or three lines is usually enough.
3. Be respectful. If she doesn't reply or says no, let it go. One message is enough.

Section 1: Openers for dating apps

Replace the [brackets] with real details from her profile.

1. 1

   Your photo from [place] looks incredible. Was it as good as it looks?

2. 2

   Okay, I need an honest answer: [something from her profile, like pineapple on pizza or the best movie ever]?

3. 3

   You said you love [hobby]. What got you into it?

4. 4

   I have a feeling you're the kind of person who [light guess based on her profile]. Am I close?

5. 5

   Your profile made me laugh with [specific line]. Is there a story behind it?

6. 6

   I'm trying to settle a debate with myself: [easy, fun either/or question]. Help me out?

7. 7

   You look like someone who'd give great recommendations. What's one place in town I should try?

8. 8

   Quick question: [specific thing from her profile]. I'm curious.

That's the end of the free sample. The full toolkit continues with eight more sections: openers for social media or mutual friends, keeping the conversation going, playful messages, moving from chat to a date, confirming and following up, reviving a quiet conversation and graceful exits.